One of the reasons for staying single is better is that you can afford to wait for your true soul mate.
In other words, by holding out for Mr Right , you can avoid the mistake
of a lifetime and marry for love -- and not out of desperation.
Too many girls get hitched for the wrong reasons, like they've reached a
certain age, all of their friends are getting married, and they haven't
been successful at dating and this man is the first to show interest.
This reason for staying single allows you to take your time playing the
dating game, and increase your odds of beating the divorce statistics.Alright, here we go.
The resolution implies that staying single is better than engaging in a
romantic relationship. I will deconstruct my opponent's argument to
demonstrate how her points have remained inconsistent to her position in
this debate, and have unfulfilled her burden as the instigator in the
affirmative position. Good luck!
Pro's first contention is that in holding out for Mr. (or Mrs. -- hehe)
Right, you can avoid the mistake of a lifetime and marry for love
instead of desperation. This argument is weak for several reasons.
First, one may not want to marry and merely wish to date around instead.
In that case, marrying for the "wrong reasons" wouldn't apply to them,
so this is not a strong point. Second, not everybody knows if they have
the time to wait. You could go at any moment, yeah? Not to mention,
there's that old urban legend that a woman over 40 has a better chance
of getting blown up by a terrorist than getting married. That statistic
is false; however, the idea that it's harder for an older woman to get
married is socially upheld. Finally on this point, let's remember that
Pro's position in this debate means that she must argue for remaining
single over choosing to be in any relationship; even one at an older
age.
Pro continues to argue that it's best to wait to get married because
you'll have more time to date, and will increase your odds of beating
the divorce statistics. I have a few things to say to that. For one
thing, if you don't engage in a serious relationship, you'll have no
idea how to behave in one. Experience is the best teacher, and without
prior preparation, one might not know how to cope in a relationship
(i.e. learn trust, the proper way to argue, a way to balance everything
in your life, etc.). Therefore staying single instead of committing to a
relationship might not be the best idea.
Second, having a relationship has significant benefits and advantages
that being single doesn't. Psychology tells us that human being have a
natural longing to seek fulfillment from a romantic relationship. As
such, having a partner makes people happier than those who don't have
partners [1]. Additionally, romantic partners often offer a sense of
stability, friendship, support, love, sexual gratification and
companionship. In choosing to stay single, you're limiting certain
aspects of your life. Nobody says that just because you're in a
relationship that you have to be missing out on anything or acting
against your well-being. In fact, I'd advocate the opposite... and I'll
leave it at that for now, until Pro responds and I can figure out where
she's going with this :)
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